COMMUNICATION
This week we focused on how we perceive others and took quizzes on our communication skills, verbal, listening and aggresiveness. I found myself in the group that is very empathetic towards others and that I take the time to listen and not dominate the conversation. But in the assessments given by friends and colleagues, my listening skills are not as high as I supposed. According to the results of the tests, I can use a little more focus in listening and I seem to sometimes dominate the conversation as opposed to listen. Also, it seems sometimes that I am more aggressive in speaking and less so in listening. All feel that I am very empathetic towards others and their feelings but that I could take more time to listen to them before speaking. I learned about perceptions and how people often perceive people much as they see themselves be it positive or negative. I also learned that our past experiences or personal schemas also have a lot to do with how we perceive or evaluate people. I do believe I have to learn more communication skills in order to be a great educator. I must be able to take the time to listen without interrupting or rushing to get to the next thought or activity. As educators or even as adults, we cannot continue to make assumptions about people, their heritage or personalities. Before we come to any conclusion about a person, we must take the time to get to know that person and find out more about him or her before making any assumptions, stereotypes or perceptions.
Saturday, July 27, 2013
Friday, July 12, 2013
BLOG ASSIGNMENT
THE OFFICE ON TBS:
I had never watched this show before but that it was interesting. When I watched the show without sound, it seemed as though there were two men that were looking at a computer and another comes into the office and seems to confront them about it. I thought of course that they were watching porn and the boss came in and caught them. Looking at their faces I assumed the conversation got into someone getting in trouble about this. This led to them sitting in the office again talking to someone on the phone, which I assumed was the big boss.
The story was about an insurance salesman that was part of the Mafia and was sending messages to the guy about buying insurance. The person that received the email, actually called the guy at the coercion of his coworkers to let him know he was not intimated and that he did not want to buy insurance. After this, coworkers informed him that he was talking to the Mafia. He actually told the guy that he would cause him bodily harm if he didn't stop emailing, not realizing he was talking to someone that was part of the Mafia.
It is very easy to assume or misinterpret people's actions without hearing what they are saying. Looking at the body language and trying to read lips, does not work when you cannot actually hear what is being said.
In communication, we must not assume anything, we have to take the time to listen and ask questions instead of waiting on our chance to talk or being defensive about what is being said. We have to be active listeners.
THE OFFICE ON TBS:
I had never watched this show before but that it was interesting. When I watched the show without sound, it seemed as though there were two men that were looking at a computer and another comes into the office and seems to confront them about it. I thought of course that they were watching porn and the boss came in and caught them. Looking at their faces I assumed the conversation got into someone getting in trouble about this. This led to them sitting in the office again talking to someone on the phone, which I assumed was the big boss.
The story was about an insurance salesman that was part of the Mafia and was sending messages to the guy about buying insurance. The person that received the email, actually called the guy at the coercion of his coworkers to let him know he was not intimated and that he did not want to buy insurance. After this, coworkers informed him that he was talking to the Mafia. He actually told the guy that he would cause him bodily harm if he didn't stop emailing, not realizing he was talking to someone that was part of the Mafia.
It is very easy to assume or misinterpret people's actions without hearing what they are saying. Looking at the body language and trying to read lips, does not work when you cannot actually hear what is being said.
In communication, we must not assume anything, we have to take the time to listen and ask questions instead of waiting on our chance to talk or being defensive about what is being said. We have to be active listeners.
Friday, July 5, 2013
COMPETENT COMMUNICATION
For this assignment I chose my pastor, Gregory Askew. The reason I chose him is because I have noticed not only in his speaking to the congregation but also in my conversation with him regarding an issue. As I began to speak to him about this particular person, I began to say things such as this person did something to hurt me and he corrected me on more than one occasion, stating that this person did something that hurt me. He helped me to realize that although I felt as if the person was doing this intentionally to hurt me, it could be that what happened hurt me but it was not necessarily the person's intention to hurt me. This helped me to channel my words in a correct way to realize what I am saying and how I am saying it. Communication is not necessarily your speaking but also listening and understanding what is being said. Pastor Askew is very careful of the words he uses and makes sure to allow the person to hear exactly what is being said without having to read between the lines. I am working on my communication skills so that I can effectively communicate the things I desire to say and not find myself apologizing for things that were taken out of context. I believe if we communicate effectively there is no reading between the lines.
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